I created this website to give an insight into Parental Alienation from the prospective of a targeted parent.

Alienation is when one parent deliberately tries to destroy the relationship between the children and the other parent.

It can be short-term alienation or, more seriously, long term alienation. Short term alienation is likely to be used at the time of divorce or separation. Long term alienation can be used from the moment the children are old enough to be manipulated (from 2 or 3 years old).

Alienators will try to make it look everything is the fault of the targeted parent by using tactics such as DARVO. DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a common tactic used by narcissists to avoid accountability for their abusive behavior and shift the blame onto their victims.

An Alienator will attempt to isolate the targeted parent, by manipulation and lies, at every possible moment.

Often, the children are warned about the targeted parent as if he/she is a danger to the children, and that the children should fear them.

“Don’t talk about this with your Dad, because he won’t be happy”.

“Don’t talk to your mother about this because she’s busy and will be annoyed with you”.

Both of the above carry an added threat from the alienating parent and, sub-consciously, the children know they mustn’t disobey the alienator.

A parent who engages in long term alienation is likely to have serious psychological problems, such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Their love will be conditional, and the children will learn that showing alliance with the alienator will buy them credit (love).

The children learn that the best option is to please the alienator.

Many targeted parents are destroyed by alienation, as there is no real way to fight it, other than to concede that their relationship with the children will never be free from the ongoing manipulation by the alienator. To protect the children from further abuse, they distance themselves. However, the children are the true victims. This is something the alienator cannot or will not see.